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Tides of change (Project Grateful 192)

Today whilst doing a daily mundane chore of opening the mail box, I discovered a change in my character.

I got a letter in my mailbox stating that my visa has YET again been delayed due to xxx reasons and to allow them another 6 months processing time.

When I got it, instead of being annoyed as I usually have been. I was just happy I heard something from them since 5 months ago, since they last approved that particular part of the paperwork.

It could be that I’ve learnt to expect so little from that particular agency but I would like to think that I’ve become more patient and more forgiving throughout this process. I’ve gained perspective towards the whole matter and while 6 months is a long time, its not the be all and end all for me anymore.

Nothing ever is; because life is a journey.

Life throws you crap all the time and its so much easier to just be enraged and upset. Sometimes you get upset because you have every right to, or because you cannot control your emotions. So vent all you want, be frustrated and be upset all you want but know at the end of the day life still has to go on.  More often than not, the little problem that we’re currently obsessing about? becomes only a bleak of dirt in your journey of life.

Morbid as it sounds, we are born, have xxx amount of years to live then we die. So make it count. Refuse to let the nitty gritties of life get you down, after all

“This too shall pass”

So this is my Grateful entry number 192. I’m grateful for growing in strength.

Project Grateful 365: Day 77

23rd Jan 2013

Grateful that I PASSED MY K1 VISA INTERVIEW in the Singapore-US consulate!!!!!

Oh my tian! Finally after like 11 months, I was finally granted the VISA interview in the US Consulate in Singapore. I went to the waiting room with Kris, and came face to face with a sea of people all waiting for their VISAs.


Kris was like, “Oh god, We’re going to be here forever!”

I was like, “We have waited for almost a year, what’s a couple of hours more?”

(hee hee)


I am so ZEN now, I amaze myself.


Anyways, we waited for about 1.5 hours which was much better than we expected. Turns out, I was actually 2nd in line, because there was a separate queue for immigrant VISAs.


The interview was rather anti-climatic, the interviewer looked at the stack of evidences I submitted to USCIS (USCIS then forwarded it to the Singapore US consulate) and was basically like, ‘I don’t need anymore evidences, this is one of the thickest stack I have ever seen. All he wanted was my BC, Passport, Passport photos, I-134s, DS156 and DS156K forms

#KIASU-ism WIN!!!!!

I had another whole ring file which We Kris actually took a whole weekend to compile (I offered to help, but he’s very anal about organization and declined).

I tried offering the file to the officer a 2nd time, but he declined and smiled saying, ‘Its definitely a genuine relationship, I don’t need more evidences, you should get your VISA in a week by our pre-assigned courier.’


I was like, ‘This is all? I’ll get my VISA in a week from now? YAYYYYYYYY, Have a nice day!!!!!! I BEAMMMMMMMM-ed very happily at him too!

The 2nd interviewer was nice, so I was pleased. I was not very happy that the interview was conducted in front of a huge room where everyone else was waiting, it meant that everyone could hear HIS questions and MY answers. #privacy-where-huh? But oh well, as long as we got our application approved!!!!

The 1st interviewer on the other hand, was very business like. After the 1st round, Kris asked me, ‘How was it.’

My reply was, ‘He’s like the male version of me.’

Kris: ‘HUH?’

Me: He’s very snippy, I tried asking a question and he was like so short/curt with me!

Kris: (laughing) Well at least you’re aware of that!

Me: -__-

Me: He was annoying la!!!! He looked at the passport photos I submitted and looked backed at the one I submitted last year where I had long hair. So to pre-empt his question, I said, ‘Oh, I cut my hair.’ and he went like, ‘You mean you cut your OWN hair.’




Me: Basically, he was short and snippy the entire time la and I had to smile sweetly and bite back all my snide remarks.

Kris: (just continues laughing)


So that concludes my Interview!




In any case, the BOTS ARE MEGA PLEASED!

I can go back home in about a week (crosses fingers) and start the other half of my Green Card process and maybe after 6-8months, I can finally get a job and/or study! Wheeeeeeee! Wheeee!

When I go back, I need to start applying for a GRE date and start studying!




Project Grateful 365: Day 52

Grateful for 2012


I am grateful for a list of things:

1) I was an Aunty for the first time. A PANK! Professional Auntie No Kids, you’ll get it if you read the Straits Times. 🙂 I spent 3 months with my precious micro sweetheart and enjoyed every single minute of being with him. He’s all cute and cuddly, with his wide eyed innocence, awfully adorable deadpan and ‘blur’ looking expressions. I love him so very much!

2) I moved to another country for the first time. The only other time I lived overseas for an extended period of time was in 2005 where I moved to Vancouver for a student exchange program, such good memories 🙂

3) I quit my first ever permanent job. Bittersweet I would say. I learnt a lot but was glad to leave and enjoy life for a while as a housewife/nanny/tai-tai!

4) I finally sorted and deleted photos my mountainous pile of photos. I went from 25,000  to 15,000.  I had procrastinated for a loooooong time. The photos dated from 2005 to 2012. I feel very accomplished. Now, it took 7 years to delete unwanted photos, so it might take 14 years for me to label each and every one of them. I still can’t decide if I want to put that in my 2013 to do list.

5) I jolted myself out of my own independent comfort zone and decided to build my life with Kristopher. We moved in together and basically were married in all senses of the word as we waited for the US government to process the VISA papers so we can finally sign those papers in New York! (Fingers crossed, it will probably be in Feb 2013!!!!!!) It has been a long time coming, but we’re at the tail end of the first part and I’m positive that things will run smoothly from then on!

On the 23rd of Jan 2013, I will have completed the interview. Chances are high I will pass that because there is ABSOLUTELY no rational reason they would deny the VISA, given the overwhelming evidence we have of our loving relationship with one another. (I knew there were benefits to dating someone who records EVERYTHING in his life, yes EVERYTHING! Every single cent he spends and every thing he eats every single day is RECORDED!!!!)

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Anyways, so here we are: once I get the approval after I pass the K1 visa interview (somewhere) around Late Jan 2013 or Early Feb 2013, I can fly to the US (With the K1 visa), get married in city hall and with the marriage certificate, start applying for the I-485 (Adjustment of Status to get a Green Card), I-765 (Employment Pass), and I-130 (Petition for Alien Relative (As his wife) to remain in the US. I will get my conditional green card (it lasts 2 years) somewhere in October 2013. It will have taken us 17 months to get a green card that lasts 24 months.

I know it all sounds very unromantic and all, getting paper work and marching to city hall. Thankfully I’m not one of those girls who are caught up over what they call the ‘dream wedding’. To me the marriage is more important than the wedding. Honestly I’m unwilling to share that moment with another 100-500 people because to me, the marriage is about just the both of us. I much prefer events with close family and friends because these people mean the most to me.

That being said, I’m confident that getting married legally will still be an important milestone in our relationship: to pledge our eternal love for one another and to set it in stone with a legal binding document. 😛

We did a cosy informal wedding/farewell party back in Singapore for my side of the family and I guess we’re going to do another cosy party for Kris’s relatives sometime in 2013/2014. (Who knows what other delays the Visa is going to bring really.) Food and alcohol are always good ways to bring people together. I think both of us dislike being the center of attention at parties, so we’re trying to make it as casual as possible. We want it to be a time for close family and friends to come, stuff their faces, and have fun. Then again, Kris’s parents have no demands on us to do anything, so we might just have a 4 person thing at city hall, just us both and his parents. We’ll see I guess!

6) I made a few friends both in the US and Singapore. Making friends is hard for me, I have plenty of acquaintances but very few people I consider friends. Facebook is not an indicator of friendship! 😛 I’m actually hard to really know, behind my ‘deceptive’ bubbly persona. I have a strong guttural instinct when it comes to people and usually within the first 30 seconds, I know if that person is one that I would want to hang out with a second time. I’m fiercely loyal to the current friends/family I have and would always rather hang out with them or alone. I find it tiring to make new friends, especially people I need to socialise with but don’t really want too. So I’m rather happy to meet some people these year that I feel I can hang out with for many years to come!

All in all, it has been a good year for me lots of changes, lots of adjustments out of my comfort zone but it has taught me many little lessons. People say that the first year of marriage (or living with) your partner is the most difficult, I am proud to announce that I loved every bit of it! I look forward to building the rest of my new life with Kristopher!

I feel very blessed with everything that has happened this year and I look forward greatly to what 2013 has in store for me/us 😀

My wish for 2013 is for more peace/less violence, more financial equality and more smiles/joy/happiness around the globe!