People are willing to give up a lot for success, reaching the APEX of their career, amassing obscene amounts of money.
I see this very prevalently in American culture, the culture of valuing long hard hours of work, it seems as tho if you have spent 80-100 hours in the office this week you have won some magical award, that you have awarded yourself in your head. It shows you possess grit, substance and resilience.
It doesn’t matter if one is going through their third divorce, or if ALL their kids need therapy, or that they have not taken their puppy out for a walk in the last decade. opps no more puppy now. There is no medal for being a good husband/wife/parent or pet owner. There is only prestigious awards for doing well at work, amassing huge amounts of POWER and WEALTH. CEO? Best sales person? Most Billable hours? Youngest Partner ever in firm history. You didn’t go home all weekend to close this M&A project? Good for you!
After all, who cares about family values, friendships, relationships, people or living things? They don’t matter, suck it up fellow living things. You value quality time? You’re weak. Everyone needs TONS of money to be happy. Didn’t you get that MEMO? Well I guess you’re not working hard enough. Answer every email! There is no such thing as weekends. You need down time? You’re too soft! You didn’t get that promotion? Is that why you’re upset? Well work harder. Give up more! Don’t go home for Christmas or Thanksgiving, show the bosses your true worth!
The only truly value and worth of a person is how much work they do, how many hours they churn into billable hours.
A couple of nerds in Princeton tired to be Contrarian to this way of life. Read this.