When I first arrived in America, it dawned on me that there wasn’t anything cute here!
Cupcakes are pretty
Flowers are beautiful
Babies are adorable and sometimes, only sometimes cute.
But in general, nothing is cutesy here!
Kris explained to me that cute in American culture means childish and most adults chose to avoid that label like plague. I mean in American most people leave their homes at like 17 to go to college and hence you have a culture of fiercely independent adults.
Asians by contrast stay with their parents till they can afford their own homes and in Singapore there is no way you can afford any home on a single income, unless you spend every single cent of your pay check on housing and live on fresh air and love! I mean the median income of a Singaporean now is $3070. And the average rental costs of a common room in Singapore is $800 (HDB), a master bed room (HDB) costs 1000 and a condo common room costs $1500 for a decent place. Do the math and you’ll quickly realise that it is because of practical reasons that most young adults choose/have to stay with their parents if they intend to have savings of any sort.
I digress, my post was about the death of cuteness and I have spent too much time on finances!
Anyhow as I was saying with this fiercely American and adult culture they have here, Kris has disallowed me to make this apartment cutesy in any shape or form. He has dictated that this is a ‘adult apartment’ and hence nothing cutesy can ‘survive’ in here. This goes against the very essence of my soul. I love cute things! I disagree that having cute things make you childish! I think having cute things makes you an appreciator of child-like things and therefore makes you youthful and happier!
Hence I rebelled and went all ‘Occupy 20 exchange’ with my
1) Hello kitty bed sheets (courtesy of mummy)
2) Scott Cars Bathroom tissues (apparently they don’t call them toilet paper, too crude!)
3) Wise Owl bathroom mat!
**If Kris disapproves of these things, he can 1) Sleep on the adult couch, 2) Not wipe his adult butt and 3) have an adult shower in the sink** (I think I am so funny!)
However Kris is a wonderful man and besides, since 90% of the house is adult! 10% of cutesy things in the house should be A-OKAY! I argue vehemently that eradicating all cute things in my home is a lost of my rights as a human person! Hee hee *inserts melodramatic face*
Below is an exerpt of a conversation I had with a 16 year old. * I cut off certain aspects of the conversation and replaced them with ‘……….’*
“Yes, in fact, one of the reasons why I picked the NY trip is because I wanted to experience city life for what it really is. No doubt, the Americans’ lifestyles have constantly been negatively portrayed by the media, which doesn’t do justice to them at all! I believe there are so many other wonderful and unique aspects of their culture, especially the huge belief in freedom of speech and human rights! I’m planning to go into political science in the future, and so I certainly hope to be able to get some enriching insights out of this trip. ……………. Last but not least, I hope you’re doing well in America! God bless …….”
There is hope for the younger generation! This conversation ‘WOW-ed’ me because there are some educated adults that I have personally encountered and their world view of America and the world in general is no where as mature as this 16 year old! She was one of my favourite students too. I really really enjoyed having her as a student, she’s always attentive, handed in perfect work all the time with perfect hand writing. Professionally, she helped me be a better teacher because she would always ask me difficult questions and that forced me to be ultra prepared for lessons! At the same time because of her enthusiasm I would invariably want to plan better differentiated learning lessons because I didn’t want to see all that talent go to waste! The part about her that that I loved was that she was really intelligent, humble and kind to her classmates.
I miss teaching.
I like having a break though, its so so so so wonderful having your own home. 😀
Cleaning is not so wonderful! But its good exercise
Did a little bit of wandering today, my plan is to conquer NYC systematically because I am obsessive compulsive like that! Today I did Financial District (FiDi) all the way to 1st Street 😀 Walkabot is ME!
Vietnam War Memorial (Because I am a history buff like that! Its interesting to study/understand the Vietnam War from an American perspective as well as a SEAsian perspective)
St Andrew’s Church (One for my darling sister Iris!)
Building along Reade Street (I’ve always had a penchant for old buildings)
United States Court House
“The true administration of justice is the firmest pillar of good government” is on top of the Corinthian columns on the New York State Supreme Courthouse.
The sky @ 1pm
Avenue of the strongest *flexes muscles*
It was a nice 3-4 hour walk. Had a Quinozs sub for lunch and dropped by the grocery stall along John street before coming home to make dinner like a good housewife! Hur hur!