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Tough Cookie

I’m helping out a friend, who’s currently going through a rough time. She’s a really nice person and very gorgeous too. The human spirit is very resilient, I see how much she has on a plate and yet still tries her very best to juggle everything effectively. Or as far as I can tell she’s doing a very effective job.

Its funny how people always see things from the outside and go, so and so has it so good, if only I was this lucky. But, truly nobody can really tell what it is like from the outside. We all see the stained glass windows and lavish curtains but what lies behind the castle is often left out of the picture.

From the outside, my life is perfect. However, like any other human being. I have my struggles too. It might not be a deadly disease or huge catastrophe   but it still exists. The mind is sometimes a tortured soul, it leads you to sink deeper and deeper into superficial wounds.

In any case, this post is about my friend. Through her, I see that no matter how tough things maybe be at this moment, if you toughen up and grit your teeth through these challenges. You will pull thru.

I hope and pray that, she will learn something valuable from this, and that the months that come after will be a little easier. Circumstances might be hard to change but hopefully she will find the strength and grace inside of her to triumph and transcend the crosses in her life.

I hope the same for myself. That thru the challenges in my life, I will become tougher and more resilient.

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T came over to stay with me for 2 days while Kris was travelling. We had a good time chatting and spending time with one another. I knew her since Uni days and really got close in the last 2 years before graduation. Since then, I think we have been constantly in touch despite work, traveling and immigration plans. She’s going to be in Georgia for a couple of years and while that still might be 14 hours away by car, its still better than 24 hours away by plane!

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This is us, happy and excited before we stood in line for 6.5 hours to see the POPE in Central Park.

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Credits to T. She took a far better picture than my tiny lil camera. I guess the pope was about 10 to 12m away? But even tho we arrived 5.5 hours before he was slated to come, there was still throngs of people in front of us. But I guess I know can I saw the POPE in person! Hur Hur. 10m is not that far really!

Back from wallowing in my mud pool

I took a short break from blogging, especially from Project Grateful because frankly I wasn’t all that happy. I was angry with a lot of things and I didn’t want to lie about being grateful while wallowing in my mud pool.

Anyhow, the storm has cleared and I am back! I must remember that nothing goes smoothly all the time and not let setbacks get me down. I always tell myself that, but sometimes its harder in practice!

So what cheered me up?????

I had a wonderful visit from my baby nephew Ice and his parents, together with a ‘surprise’ visit from Teresa a couple of days ago. That cheered me up tremendously! I guess I was a little homesick! Little Ice is so cute and had a good time bonding with Uncle kris. He really just gets cuter and cuter. He’s more interactive now and more his own person, no longer this doe eyed curious boy who’s content to look at the world from your arms. He reaches and grabs things, eats everything in sight! and just wouldn’t stop squirming around! Little moving ball of cuteness! Teresa was here because she was stranded in NYC for a while due to delayed and cancelled flights, poor her but I’m glad we got a couple of hours to talk and chill!

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Getting lots of kisses!IMG_5067

How can you NOT love this boy?

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Teresa and Me at the Brooklyn Bridge

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Martinus and Ice on the plane

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Ice perched on Yiyi’s shoulders, attempting to pull out all her hair!

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Martinus and Ice at the Staten Ferry

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Ice excited and happy at the Cuban restaurant

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Happy Uncle and Ice

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Bullying Pic

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Ice giving a ‘what are these adults doing’ look

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Macho father and nonchalant son

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The Kosasih’s arriving at JFK

Project Grateful 365: Day 95

Grateful that I saw Charlie Bear today!

He’s my neighbor and he’s 9 months old. He’s cute and cuddly like a teddy bear. After a few months, he still remembers me. No crying when I carried him! YAY!

He gave me a nice kiss/lick on the cheek and was happy to cuddle and snuggle on my lap. *melts*

He’s TOO cute. Made me very happy. Helps that I get along well with his mummy who’s a very sweet lady. We usually go for walks together with the-royal-cutepie. She’s married to an Asian man. A reverse of me and Kris. 🙂 We’re also similar in many ways, most importantly we’re regular happy people and love our families very much.

I got lots of cute smiles/giggles and bear like laughs from the little one, so I’m grateful for that today!

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Same one as the one I bought for baby Ice, doesn’t Charlie Bear look like a little charmer here? He’s a very happy kid.

He crawls backwards too, so cute to watch!!!

Project 365: Day 86

Thankful for inspirational people around me

Today I had yummy lunch with my namesake. My better twin. She’s gorgeous and grounded. Humble and intelligent. Genuine and kind hearted. Every time I have a conversation/chat with her, I feel inspired to be a better person.

So today I’m grateful for having friends like this. We didn’t take photos (as usual) but I did take photos of the food. (Who’s a greedy gus?) NOT ME!

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Project Grateful 365: Day 52

Grateful for 2012

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I am grateful for a list of things:

1) I was an Aunty for the first time. A PANK! Professional Auntie No Kids, you’ll get it if you read the Straits Times. 🙂 I spent 3 months with my precious micro sweetheart and enjoyed every single minute of being with him. He’s all cute and cuddly, with his wide eyed innocence, awfully adorable deadpan and ‘blur’ looking expressions. I love him so very much!

2) I moved to another country for the first time. The only other time I lived overseas for an extended period of time was in 2005 where I moved to Vancouver for a student exchange program, such good memories 🙂

3) I quit my first ever permanent job. Bittersweet I would say. I learnt a lot but was glad to leave and enjoy life for a while as a housewife/nanny/tai-tai!

4) I finally sorted and deleted photos my mountainous pile of photos. I went from 25,000  to 15,000.  I had procrastinated for a loooooong time. The photos dated from 2005 to 2012. I feel very accomplished. Now, it took 7 years to delete unwanted photos, so it might take 14 years for me to label each and every one of them. I still can’t decide if I want to put that in my 2013 to do list.

5) I jolted myself out of my own independent comfort zone and decided to build my life with Kristopher. We moved in together and basically were married in all senses of the word as we waited for the US government to process the VISA papers so we can finally sign those papers in New York! (Fingers crossed, it will probably be in Feb 2013!!!!!!) It has been a long time coming, but we’re at the tail end of the first part and I’m positive that things will run smoothly from then on!

On the 23rd of Jan 2013, I will have completed the interview. Chances are high I will pass that because there is ABSOLUTELY no rational reason they would deny the VISA, given the overwhelming evidence we have of our loving relationship with one another. (I knew there were benefits to dating someone who records EVERYTHING in his life, yes EVERYTHING! Every single cent he spends and every thing he eats every single day is RECORDED!!!!)

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Anyways, so here we are: once I get the approval after I pass the K1 visa interview (somewhere) around Late Jan 2013 or Early Feb 2013, I can fly to the US (With the K1 visa), get married in city hall and with the marriage certificate, start applying for the I-485 (Adjustment of Status to get a Green Card), I-765 (Employment Pass), and I-130 (Petition for Alien Relative (As his wife) to remain in the US. I will get my conditional green card (it lasts 2 years) somewhere in October 2013. It will have taken us 17 months to get a green card that lasts 24 months.

I know it all sounds very unromantic and all, getting paper work and marching to city hall. Thankfully I’m not one of those girls who are caught up over what they call the ‘dream wedding’. To me the marriage is more important than the wedding. Honestly I’m unwilling to share that moment with another 100-500 people because to me, the marriage is about just the both of us. I much prefer events with close family and friends because these people mean the most to me.

That being said, I’m confident that getting married legally will still be an important milestone in our relationship: to pledge our eternal love for one another and to set it in stone with a legal binding document. 😛

We did a cosy informal wedding/farewell party back in Singapore for my side of the family and I guess we’re going to do another cosy party for Kris’s relatives sometime in 2013/2014. (Who knows what other delays the Visa is going to bring really.) Food and alcohol are always good ways to bring people together. I think both of us dislike being the center of attention at parties, so we’re trying to make it as casual as possible. We want it to be a time for close family and friends to come, stuff their faces, and have fun. Then again, Kris’s parents have no demands on us to do anything, so we might just have a 4 person thing at city hall, just us both and his parents. We’ll see I guess!

6) I made a few friends both in the US and Singapore. Making friends is hard for me, I have plenty of acquaintances but very few people I consider friends. Facebook is not an indicator of friendship! 😛 I’m actually hard to really know, behind my ‘deceptive’ bubbly persona. I have a strong guttural instinct when it comes to people and usually within the first 30 seconds, I know if that person is one that I would want to hang out with a second time. I’m fiercely loyal to the current friends/family I have and would always rather hang out with them or alone. I find it tiring to make new friends, especially people I need to socialise with but don’t really want too. So I’m rather happy to meet some people these year that I feel I can hang out with for many years to come!

All in all, it has been a good year for me lots of changes, lots of adjustments out of my comfort zone but it has taught me many little lessons. People say that the first year of marriage (or living with) your partner is the most difficult, I am proud to announce that I loved every bit of it! I look forward to building the rest of my new life with Kristopher!

I feel very blessed with everything that has happened this year and I look forward greatly to what 2013 has in store for me/us 😀

My wish for 2013 is for more peace/less violence, more financial equality and more smiles/joy/happiness around the globe!

#PeaceOUT

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