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Achievement unlocked!

This week has been the best week of 2014!

I have not only, gotten all A’s for all my assignments in the language class I’m taking, but also have been accepted into a Masters Program in Educational Psychology. The former is worth mentioning because I took a college class partly to ‘switch on my engines’, in preparation for graduate studies. It’s swell that I’ve done well, because it gives me greater confidence in doing well for Graduate School.

I’m really excited and grateful for the opportunity to return to school again. I aspire to do more with my life and I feel that this is taking a HUGE step in the right direction. Once again tho, I must remind myself that the journey is as important as the destination. While I want to graduate well academically, I must make sure that I fully enjoy and embrace the learning process.

I’m enjoying the lovely spring weather and looking forward to making a trip back home to my lovely country, Singapore. I miss my family and friends dearly and can’t wait to see them again! Oh, and all the super-yummy-drool-worthy-delicious Singaporean food!!!

I feel so happy that my chest is ballooning in happiness. I’m not sure if that even makes any sense to anyone. However, it does to me!

Special mention must be given to my sweetie pie hubby and all who love me, for their constant support!

 

Project Grateful 365: Day 138 (Grateful for my apartment tour of Newport)

3rd April 2013

Yesterday I decided to cross the Hudson again to meet some  friends for lunch! I like trotting across the river very much. The walk along the Hudson (from the NJ side) is very beautiful, on days where it is not blistering cold, one can see the entire skyline of Manhattan without freezing your ass off!

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Newport PATH is a lot quieter than the WTC Path, possibly because of the construction being carried out on Freedom Tower. Its very interesting because as soon as you cross the Hudson, you realize that the roads are now wider and buildings more spaced out compared to Manhattan.

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Cosi’s half sandwich and half salad lunch!

Cosi’s Signature salad
Basil Mozzarella sandwich
Chips
Iced tea

Anyhow I’m very glad that those 3 ladies offered me a tour of their apartments and eventually we settled in Medha’s apartment for tea. Pineapple cake from scratch and old school Indian Chai tea. YUMs. She has a little pup called Leo-the-pup and he has these huge inquisitive eyes and a very playful demeanor – as most little puppies. I didn’t like it so much when he barked at me, but only for a bit. Most of the time, he was jumping up and down wanting to be entertained. He does that by looking at you oh-so-cutely and demanding that you play fetch with him. After 2+ hours, he got sufficiently exhausted and started to rest adorably at our feet.

And there was it after cheerful chatter and great company, 5+ hours withered away and I made my way back across the river to make dinner for my husband. (Like a dutiful wife. HA!) Made it in time to catch the pretty sunset too. So happy the sun sets around 7pm these days. WOOT WOOT

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I tried making a roll with spinach and cheese for dinner. Tried is the operative word here because I didn’t drain out the spinach properly and it was smoking a great deal. As you all know, my fire alarm works superbly and I was so worried that the steam from the spinach was going to set it off. So I keep fiddling with the oven and tried to adjust and do damage control Lo and behold, I accidentally set the wax paper (base of my spinach roll) on fire (when I switched to the broiler) and had a mini fire in my kitchen. Exciting life of a home-maker, I dare day. In the end, I changed my course of action and made spinach tortilla wraps instead.

After dinner, we did a 4 mile walk! I’m very happy to note that I started out aiming to walk 20 miles a week and on my first week, I managed a very impressive 26mile walk. (total of course) This week however, has been less eventful and I only did 14 miles so far. I hope I can keep this up, I’m so inconsistent with my exercising.

Project Grateful 365: Day 78 and 79

24th and 25th January 2013

On the 24th, I’m glad I got time to spend with my closest gfs from NUS! I didn’t take any pictures because we meet up at a house (incomplete group) before we went to one of their grandma’s wake where it was full attendance. (Its highly inappropriate to take photos at a wake in Singapore)

Except of the loss, everyone was in a good place, happy and healthy and so, I am grateful that all the people I love are happy. Wakes remind me of the temporal nature of life and how one must remember to treasure the days you’re alive to be happy and also to be to be a source of joy to others when you’re alive.

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Kris and myself also cheered up someone special with some flowers, so it was a happy day! I now know why its better to give than receive! Spreading JOY is FUN!

On the 25th, I met with my bestest friends from secondary school. It was a play date for two babies, iceicebaby and Jojo’s little nat nat!

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Guilty indulgence

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“caught in the act”

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Little female angelic face

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Us three!

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“Caught in the act II”

And then, in the afternoon it was Ice Ice Baby’s Day out. Did I tell you that I feel super grateful because I have very little time in Singapore and two people on Friday took leave to spend time with me? (And Ice, I alone might not have commanded that authority, but that ball of cuteness surely can)

I love him so much, he’s like a ball of cuteness!

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Call Seat

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Stop the music please, nap time for me! (I love his cool pose) Hands on the hips YO!

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5 months 3 weeks and SOOOOO ready to eat

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Yiyi are you camwhoring again? STOP time to go out!

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I’m such a big boy now

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HUGE EYES

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Oh Hiiiiiiii

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My little acrobat touching his toes

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Happy to see his YIYI

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Happy to see his YIYI 2

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Oh Hiiiii (II)

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Poor me face

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KISSES from YIYI

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How cute! He’s kiss me back. More like trying to lick me!

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My precious precious nephew

I am a PANK!

Professional Aunty No Kids.

As for those who have been asking me when is my turn continuously. COPULATION is a private affair. Please have some sense of space thank you very much. I think in this sense, Americans have way more tact compared to Singaporeans and virtually nobody in America has asked, “when’s your turn?’

Possibly because 

A) They are intelligent enough to know that if I wanted kids NOW, I would be making babies at home instead of wasting my time having a conversation with you. I say waste because you’re asking me a very private question, which you shouldn’t be asking.

B) It really is a private affair! Americans are less nosey, actually more like less obviously nosey. 😛 Asians are really IN YOUR FACE. I’m guilty of that too, need to slowly change! I have asked people people about kids, but I have since stopped because with my new status, I have developed empathy for them. Apologies to the rest I asked before I reached this stage of realization!

C) I mean what happens IF (and I STRESS IF) we had been trying and just cannot have one. I mean how painful will it be for a couple to be reminded CONSTANTLY that they unable to have a kid?

D) Stop being Singaporean and constantly having to chase for a certificate! University certificate, Marriage Certificate, Certificate of Entitlement (Cars), Certificate of Home(title deed for property) and Birth Certificate… blah blah. I mean enjoy your LIFE NOW, stop chasing for stuff constantly!

Sorry to end off with a rant, but its important to me

PEACE OUT!

Going to play with little bub now! Wheeeeeee

Project Grateful 365: Day 52

Grateful for 2012

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I am grateful for a list of things:

1) I was an Aunty for the first time. A PANK! Professional Auntie No Kids, you’ll get it if you read the Straits Times. 🙂 I spent 3 months with my precious micro sweetheart and enjoyed every single minute of being with him. He’s all cute and cuddly, with his wide eyed innocence, awfully adorable deadpan and ‘blur’ looking expressions. I love him so very much!

2) I moved to another country for the first time. The only other time I lived overseas for an extended period of time was in 2005 where I moved to Vancouver for a student exchange program, such good memories 🙂

3) I quit my first ever permanent job. Bittersweet I would say. I learnt a lot but was glad to leave and enjoy life for a while as a housewife/nanny/tai-tai!

4) I finally sorted and deleted photos my mountainous pile of photos. I went from 25,000  to 15,000.  I had procrastinated for a loooooong time. The photos dated from 2005 to 2012. I feel very accomplished. Now, it took 7 years to delete unwanted photos, so it might take 14 years for me to label each and every one of them. I still can’t decide if I want to put that in my 2013 to do list.

5) I jolted myself out of my own independent comfort zone and decided to build my life with Kristopher. We moved in together and basically were married in all senses of the word as we waited for the US government to process the VISA papers so we can finally sign those papers in New York! (Fingers crossed, it will probably be in Feb 2013!!!!!!) It has been a long time coming, but we’re at the tail end of the first part and I’m positive that things will run smoothly from then on!

On the 23rd of Jan 2013, I will have completed the interview. Chances are high I will pass that because there is ABSOLUTELY no rational reason they would deny the VISA, given the overwhelming evidence we have of our loving relationship with one another. (I knew there were benefits to dating someone who records EVERYTHING in his life, yes EVERYTHING! Every single cent he spends and every thing he eats every single day is RECORDED!!!!)

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Anyways, so here we are: once I get the approval after I pass the K1 visa interview (somewhere) around Late Jan 2013 or Early Feb 2013, I can fly to the US (With the K1 visa), get married in city hall and with the marriage certificate, start applying for the I-485 (Adjustment of Status to get a Green Card), I-765 (Employment Pass), and I-130 (Petition for Alien Relative (As his wife) to remain in the US. I will get my conditional green card (it lasts 2 years) somewhere in October 2013. It will have taken us 17 months to get a green card that lasts 24 months.

I know it all sounds very unromantic and all, getting paper work and marching to city hall. Thankfully I’m not one of those girls who are caught up over what they call the ‘dream wedding’. To me the marriage is more important than the wedding. Honestly I’m unwilling to share that moment with another 100-500 people because to me, the marriage is about just the both of us. I much prefer events with close family and friends because these people mean the most to me.

That being said, I’m confident that getting married legally will still be an important milestone in our relationship: to pledge our eternal love for one another and to set it in stone with a legal binding document. 😛

We did a cosy informal wedding/farewell party back in Singapore for my side of the family and I guess we’re going to do another cosy party for Kris’s relatives sometime in 2013/2014. (Who knows what other delays the Visa is going to bring really.) Food and alcohol are always good ways to bring people together. I think both of us dislike being the center of attention at parties, so we’re trying to make it as casual as possible. We want it to be a time for close family and friends to come, stuff their faces, and have fun. Then again, Kris’s parents have no demands on us to do anything, so we might just have a 4 person thing at city hall, just us both and his parents. We’ll see I guess!

6) I made a few friends both in the US and Singapore. Making friends is hard for me, I have plenty of acquaintances but very few people I consider friends. Facebook is not an indicator of friendship! 😛 I’m actually hard to really know, behind my ‘deceptive’ bubbly persona. I have a strong guttural instinct when it comes to people and usually within the first 30 seconds, I know if that person is one that I would want to hang out with a second time. I’m fiercely loyal to the current friends/family I have and would always rather hang out with them or alone. I find it tiring to make new friends, especially people I need to socialise with but don’t really want too. So I’m rather happy to meet some people these year that I feel I can hang out with for many years to come!

All in all, it has been a good year for me lots of changes, lots of adjustments out of my comfort zone but it has taught me many little lessons. People say that the first year of marriage (or living with) your partner is the most difficult, I am proud to announce that I loved every bit of it! I look forward to building the rest of my new life with Kristopher!

I feel very blessed with everything that has happened this year and I look forward greatly to what 2013 has in store for me/us 😀

My wish for 2013 is for more peace/less violence, more financial equality and more smiles/joy/happiness around the globe!

#PeaceOUT

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