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Project Grateful 365: Day 88

Grateful that I made it to the Doctor in the nick of time!

After the feasting in the last couple of weeks, I thought I should exercise and attempted to go swimming. Well I did, but along with it came with a painful ear infection because quite a bit of water got into my ear when I was trying to execute a world record in freestyle! stay afloat in the water. heh.

Anyhow it started to hurt last night and I was trying to pretend it didn’t exist. (Law of attraction should apply to bad things to, no?) But by mid afternoon, it hurt till my head hurt and my throat was hurting, so I made the call to go to the GP. I made it there in the nick of time, 10 minutes to closing actually the shutters were down and I had to enter via the back door.

She gave me some antibiotics because I was flying on Sunday and some ear drops that has worked a little miracle. The sharp piercing pain is no longer there! PHEWWWWW. It still aches, but no longer I-want-to-chop-off-my-ears-kinda-pain. 3 meds and consultation for 50 bucks [without insurance],  Singapore healthcare rocks compared to NYC. In bangkok it will probably cost me 20 bucks even with imported meds. (My GP gave me stronger imported meds, hence the higher price). Usually an average Doctor’s visit for me in Singapore is around 35 bucks. (w/o antibiotics usually).

[all in SGD]

My sister took half day off to bring boi boi out with me, but I had to be a party pooper and left straight after lunch. But not before taking these cute shots.


Me and Mr-why-so-hot in front of Universal Studio Singapore


Post Milk Coma


Straining his neck to watch Kakak Wati make his milk. Obviously very hungry, but a big boi now so he doesn’t have has less temper tantrums.



Project Grateful 365: Day 52

Grateful for 2012


I am grateful for a list of things:

1) I was an Aunty for the first time. A PANK! Professional Auntie No Kids, you’ll get it if you read the Straits Times. 🙂 I spent 3 months with my precious micro sweetheart and enjoyed every single minute of being with him. He’s all cute and cuddly, with his wide eyed innocence, awfully adorable deadpan and ‘blur’ looking expressions. I love him so very much!

2) I moved to another country for the first time. The only other time I lived overseas for an extended period of time was in 2005 where I moved to Vancouver for a student exchange program, such good memories 🙂

3) I quit my first ever permanent job. Bittersweet I would say. I learnt a lot but was glad to leave and enjoy life for a while as a housewife/nanny/tai-tai!

4) I finally sorted and deleted photos my mountainous pile of photos. I went from 25,000  to 15,000.  I had procrastinated for a loooooong time. The photos dated from 2005 to 2012. I feel very accomplished. Now, it took 7 years to delete unwanted photos, so it might take 14 years for me to label each and every one of them. I still can’t decide if I want to put that in my 2013 to do list.

5) I jolted myself out of my own independent comfort zone and decided to build my life with Kristopher. We moved in together and basically were married in all senses of the word as we waited for the US government to process the VISA papers so we can finally sign those papers in New York! (Fingers crossed, it will probably be in Feb 2013!!!!!!) It has been a long time coming, but we’re at the tail end of the first part and I’m positive that things will run smoothly from then on!

On the 23rd of Jan 2013, I will have completed the interview. Chances are high I will pass that because there is ABSOLUTELY no rational reason they would deny the VISA, given the overwhelming evidence we have of our loving relationship with one another. (I knew there were benefits to dating someone who records EVERYTHING in his life, yes EVERYTHING! Every single cent he spends and every thing he eats every single day is RECORDED!!!!)

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Anyways, so here we are: once I get the approval after I pass the K1 visa interview (somewhere) around Late Jan 2013 or Early Feb 2013, I can fly to the US (With the K1 visa), get married in city hall and with the marriage certificate, start applying for the I-485 (Adjustment of Status to get a Green Card), I-765 (Employment Pass), and I-130 (Petition for Alien Relative (As his wife) to remain in the US. I will get my conditional green card (it lasts 2 years) somewhere in October 2013. It will have taken us 17 months to get a green card that lasts 24 months.

I know it all sounds very unromantic and all, getting paper work and marching to city hall. Thankfully I’m not one of those girls who are caught up over what they call the ‘dream wedding’. To me the marriage is more important than the wedding. Honestly I’m unwilling to share that moment with another 100-500 people because to me, the marriage is about just the both of us. I much prefer events with close family and friends because these people mean the most to me.

That being said, I’m confident that getting married legally will still be an important milestone in our relationship: to pledge our eternal love for one another and to set it in stone with a legal binding document. 😛

We did a cosy informal wedding/farewell party back in Singapore for my side of the family and I guess we’re going to do another cosy party for Kris’s relatives sometime in 2013/2014. (Who knows what other delays the Visa is going to bring really.) Food and alcohol are always good ways to bring people together. I think both of us dislike being the center of attention at parties, so we’re trying to make it as casual as possible. We want it to be a time for close family and friends to come, stuff their faces, and have fun. Then again, Kris’s parents have no demands on us to do anything, so we might just have a 4 person thing at city hall, just us both and his parents. We’ll see I guess!

6) I made a few friends both in the US and Singapore. Making friends is hard for me, I have plenty of acquaintances but very few people I consider friends. Facebook is not an indicator of friendship! 😛 I’m actually hard to really know, behind my ‘deceptive’ bubbly persona. I have a strong guttural instinct when it comes to people and usually within the first 30 seconds, I know if that person is one that I would want to hang out with a second time. I’m fiercely loyal to the current friends/family I have and would always rather hang out with them or alone. I find it tiring to make new friends, especially people I need to socialise with but don’t really want too. So I’m rather happy to meet some people these year that I feel I can hang out with for many years to come!

All in all, it has been a good year for me lots of changes, lots of adjustments out of my comfort zone but it has taught me many little lessons. People say that the first year of marriage (or living with) your partner is the most difficult, I am proud to announce that I loved every bit of it! I look forward to building the rest of my new life with Kristopher!

I feel very blessed with everything that has happened this year and I look forward greatly to what 2013 has in store for me/us 😀

My wish for 2013 is for more peace/less violence, more financial equality and more smiles/joy/happiness around the globe!



Project Grateful 365: Day 47

Today I am grateful that I got to be part of Kris’s family and celebrating Christmas with them.

*Kris tells me I’m extra special because I’m the ONLY person in the world besides their Grandparents who celebrated Christmas with them. YEAH!!!! *pumps fist*


Christmas in America is done on an UNBELIEVABLE SCALE.

Here’s some pictorial evidence, I would like to respect their privacy so no photos of Kris’s family!

This is me! Super eggcited about the Christmas Stocking, because Santa filled it up. It was also hand sewn with lots of love from Anne. *wipes tear*



Happy me, posing with my loot. Notice the other side of my stocking says Grampa! It used to belong to Kris’s grandpa, whom I’ve heard so much about but never got the chance to meet. So I’m happy that I’m sharing a stocking he once used!







Kris being a clown. (as usual :P)


The Bots! Looking super happy and ultra BLISS-ED OUT!


Close up of my wonderful stocking.


AND! Of course half way across the world my family has also celebrated Christmas! Boi Boi’s first christmas! MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL MY LOVES BACK HOME!!!!!

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Project Grateful 365: Day 28

Today I am grateful for my mother.

Despite all the philosophical differences we might have, despite the fact that we always squabble, despite the fact that I was always the rebellious youngest little kid that was always talking back.

**context: (Asian children are not supposed to talk back! When I was growing up my sisters used to tell me little kids should be seen and not heard! That worked out the opposite really, I am one of the most opinionated person I know.I’m proud of that, it was probably because of their taunting, or perhaps its my innate nature not to take sh*t from anyone.) *thumps chest*

 Back to the point of the post, deep down I am very grateful for her, for taking care of the 3 of us on her own and doing the best in her capacity for all of us. I’m grateful that she didn’t just bail out and take off like my Dad did, despite me being so ‘difficult’. 😛

*PS: I would like to think that I was difficult with style!*

Back home in NYC again! Wheeeeeeee

The wonderful wonderful guy at immigration gave me a 90 day visa. With some degree of friendliness and sympathy to boot!  The heavens must have been watching over me!

So now I can hug Kris non stop for 80+ days! Wheeeeeeeeee

I can finally enjoy the shiny apartment and cook yummy meals for my bot! I have grand plans about being a macaroon chef!

I have a backlog of entries of my Bangkok trip and Japan which I promise to update soon! Well soon-ish 😛 Bangkok and Japan were super fun, the company was excellent and I have decided that these are my top 2 favourite cities in South East Asia and East Asia.

I did Japan alone for 3 nights and I realised that I like travelling alone, I mean I enjoyed the company when it was there, but I generally had no problems being alone. I enjoyed wandering along streets on my own, waking up/resting/sleeping eating whenever and wherever I went, had random conversations with random strangers. It was nice. I never thought I would enjoy travelling alone as much, but I just wanted to try it for the heck of it. Glad I did. Things to check off my bucket list 🙂 Japan was  very tourist friendly too, I mean I cannot speak a word but everything there is designed so intelligently and intuitively that with a certain level of intellect (heh! heh!) I breezed through the city. It is definitely one of the more civilised countries in the world, the people are gracious and helpful when asked. Like any big cities, everyone is rushing off somewhere but everybody I asked for directions/help gave it so willingly and some went the extra mile to help me find my way. Restore my faith in human kind! Mild exaggeration is a woman’s prerogative!

I am excited to go visit Kris’s parents and their calm and serene house next month and I’m SUPER excited to see his adorable grandma! This time maybe Kris will allow me to try a game of golf on my own and not hog the club and say ‘You’re too slow and we don’t want to hold up the people behind’. I shall wake him up at 6am and so that we’re the first one on the greens!  *insert evil laugh*

I was especially touched to note that Anne and his sis gave me some Christmas presents (from Xmas 2011) and even baked some cookies (froze them) and was exhilarated to tear open my presents when I got to the apartment. I mean Xmas presents in April! Santa must really love me! I haven’t eaten the cookies yet but it looks promising, all colourful and happy. The other Christmas presents were really well thought of and exactly what I like! Its really sweet when you know someone racked her brains to scout for presents that she knows are ‘YOU’. Its really the thought that counts! Thanks Anne and Kim!

Hmmmm cookies, I shall go warm some up now!