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So life has taken a turn, and these days, I mostly blog here.

BUT!!!!!! I have shared quite a number of years of my life pre baby here, so once in a while, when I have unrelated baby posts, I will visit this blog again!

It has been about 3 months since we moved from Manhattan to Jersey City and the verdict from the both of us have been: WE SHOULD HAVE DONE IT SOONER! But we really like the quiet here, so we have been telling people, yes we like it here, but only if you like peace and quiet! Or have a kid!

The Manhattanites often tease us and call us the Jersey People, or go: Adios! We’re never seeing you again! My response these days, are pretty standard. I usually go, yeah JC is terrible! We hate it here, don’t move here! The demand is really making our rents go up, so please don’t move to this terrible place!!! I love being able to walk into a restaurant at grove without making a reservation, having space to talk and chat freely, so please! Don’t move here! Stay in Manhattan where you gotta wait at least half an hour for a cool hipster place for dinner! JC is not cool at all. Its for boring people!

The best part about moving here to me, has been having a car right below our apartment, exploring little towns, buying tons of cheap groceries, going apple picking, going to farms, driving along the coast, going for mini vacations in the weekends! We obviously cannot wait till Kai is born, so that Mommy would be more mobile and we can bring him to more and more fun places! Oh the possibilities! 39 weeks and 1 day. We’re getting so close to fully baking our little bun!

But please, JC is not cool at all. Stay in Manhattan, go to Brooklyn! Stop increasing our rent!

Excuse me, how is this happening in 2017?

On Friday, this happened.

On Saturday evening, this was a public outcry, outrage really, to the above.

Then, the judicial courts, heard the people, and issued a stay on the executive order.

Anybody recall Nazi Germany in 1933?

Yes, I am not American. Which is exactly why I know that Democracy is a PRIVILEGE and not a RIGHT. If you do not protect your country’s democratic values and what it stands for, then be prepared to have it yanked right out from under your nose. It is precisely because I used to live in a democracy that is different from America’s, that I see, no matter how imperfect, America’s democracy is sacred and vulnerable at the same time.

People give lots of crap to peaceful protestors who go out and ’cause mayhem’ but HEY doing something, is better than complaining from behind your keyboard about people who are actually going OUT there to make a difference.

Saturday’s federal judge ruling, is an important milestone in the trajectory of human decency. As a nation, America backtracked 50 years on 20th January, 2017. Lets hope we can all trudge forward together. The world is on your side with regards to human decency America!

Of pain and meaning

We don’t seek the painful experiences that hew our identities, but we seek our identities in the wake of painful experiences. We cannot bear a pointless torment, but we can endure great pain if we believe that it’s purposeful. Ease makes less of an impression on us than struggle. We could have been ourselves without our delights, but not without the misfortunes that drive our search for meaning.” – Soloman, A. 


When I was 3, I was cute.
When I was 13, I was angsty.
When I was 23, I wanted more.
When I am 33, I am happy.
I have everything I want and need to make my life comfortable.
33 years feels both like a long time but at the same time, it feels like a flash.
You know how as a teenager you always think that when you’re an adult, you’ll get it all figured out? Myth.
I’m not ‘figured it out’ per se, but I’ve determined that its okay to never ever figure ‘it’ out.
 At every stage of your life you pursue different things and at every stage you desire different things.
Life in the past couple of years has been good to me, no major health issues, I mostly partake in activities that give me pleasure and I have no major worries.
Its easy to forget the good and focus on things you have yet to have, but my 33 years of ‘baby wisdom’ have taught me that happiness is derived from focusing on the good, always.

I love school!

At the risk of sounded like the biggest nerd in the universe, this was one of the best semesters I had in Graduate school, or ever really.

I finished my thesis on Emotional Competence in Young Children, a topic I explored at length in my master’s program and I’m very proud of my work. Before you begin to say, she has no shame. Let it be known that I am, my own, harshest critic. I’m always telling myself, I can do better, but this time. I can actually say, I did good! I researched very thoroughly on a topic that I truly loved, and it was my best work so far in Graduate school.

Some of my classmates are graduating this year and I’m going to miss them.

Thank Goodness, I’m not graduating yet! I have one more semester to go, a class in Program Evaluation (educational programs) and Early Childhood before I officially graduate. I’m very excited about the latter course because I truly enjoy working with young children. When I’m done with school, I’m going to explore the possibilities of working with young children.

I’m so thankful for my supportive husband, and the fact that I don’t have to juggle a full time job and a Master’s program. It has really given me the opportunity to dig deep and really explore my passions and research interests. Thank you MB!!! Considering that I’ve finished the most difficult part of graduate school, I’m ready to cruise through the next semester. Bring it on!

Before that tho, I’m looking at a trip to Kris’s parents and a long awaited trip back home to Singapore.

Holidays! Here I come!