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Reflection

A recent spate of events reminded me of how sometimes, I become my very own worse critic.

I treat people with respect, patience and kindness but sometimes I forget that it is equally, if not more important to treat myself with patience and kindness.

So today, I will dust off the wounds and accept that it is okay to fail from time to time.

The more important lesson is, how can I learn from this mistake and be a better Charlene tomorrow.

On a side note, the hubby is making huge inroads in his (new) business. I put new in parentheses because I’m not sure if 1.5 years is still classified as new. Intelligence, persistence, diligence and courage are some of the values that he has exemplified over the last 2 years and I couldn’t be more proud of him! I seldom use the word deserved, because I find it somewhat entitled but I’m going to make the exception and say that he deserves all the success he’s going to get from this business, because of the crazy ass amount of work that he has put into it!

My smart little puppy! *pats pats*

It has been a while, Singapore

Yesterday, I presented my first presentation of graduate school and it was quite a blast. Both for me and my classmates. I had a lot of fun presenting and my classmates had a good laugh.

The project was a contemporary applications presentation, where I was supposed to find a contemporary application topic in my everyday life and relate it to the learning theories that I’ve learnt in class. I decided to do something close to my heart and presented on “Re-learning to live in NYC”, in which I talked about all the things I’ve learnt since moving here. I related learning theories to: why I made those  mistakes in the first place and had the class in stitches. I used social cultural theories, behaviorism and social cognitive theories.

After the class, I got “fist bumps” from my classmate and remarks of “You killed it.”  Which was very interesting because my peers’ reaction would be very different had I presented a similar topic in Singapore. A visiting lecturer, who was sitting in class to observe my professor, told me that I should consider writing a memoir or join UCB (Upright Citizen’s Brigade), which is some comedy training centre. I was thinking to myself, really? Was it that hilarious? I’m only reciting stories/misconceptions I had when I first moved here!

Nonetheless, I really enjoyed what I did. Now I’m thinking, I really need to find a thesis topic that’s closely related to what I did today! Because, one must try to do things, that makes the heart smile!

Happy Tuesday everyone! I hope you had as good of a start to the week as I did!

Oh why the title? I realized that I left Singapore officially in 2013, which wasn’t all that long really, but somehow my current life now seems to overshadow all that I left behind. In essence, it isn’t such a bad thing because it means I am making the most out of my time here and embracing THE NOW.

Going back to school was one of the best decisions I’ve made since coming here! I’m learning a lot not only in terms of content material but also learning a lot through observing the people around me. I am not just making friends with tech people (thru Kris)  or migrant housewives or sojourned Singaporeans. I feel like I’m finally getting to know real Americans in my own domains!

Just for good measure

*fist bumps* from my left hand to my right hand!

On a side note, we called Kris’s gramma the other day and she told me, “Oh, why do you want to go back to school?, what about making babies?, I would like to see my great grandkids, I’m not getting younger you know!.”

She’s adorable! Once you’re 90+ you can pretty much get away with saying anything!

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Achievement unlocked!

It has been 626 days since I moved to NYC.

But tonight I finally felt like saw a breakthrough in my “PROJECT CHARBOT CONQUERS AMERICA“!!! 

I remember when I first got to NYC and hung out with Kris’s friends/work buddies. I did not freaking understanding their humor, colloquialism and general references to the ‘American’ way. I give some credit to the field that my husband is in, people in tech have a different way of expressing themselves. No really, hang around some (cool) geeks one day and you will notice the difference. 

Anyhow.

Today I sat down for a 4.5 hour dinner/drinks shenanigan and I totally UNDERSTOOD EVERYTHING THAT WAS SAID. I laughed a lot and was able to poke fun at people. (right back-atcha!)

I came home and realized I didn’t have to ask Kristopher, what did ‘xxx’ mean when he said ‘yyy’. Statistically speaking, it was with similar variables of his ex-colleagues, therefore I feel like the analysis of my learning of “Americanisms’ has vastly improved. I probably learnt most of it prior to today’s 626 mark, but today was a proven ‘test’. After all, you must start an experiment with similar variables!

And  you know what?

It feels ABSOLUTELY GREAT!!!

Makes the OCD in me extremely pleased because I like to to be in control and know (almost) everything and anything. True I might not know a lot of things in the grand scheme of things, but mastering something new always feels AWESOME!

PS: Spring, if you do read this. I would like you to know that Matt said this at least 3 times over dinner: (and I quote), “My wife is BEAUTIFUL”.

Compacting

Its that time of the year where I feel the need to downsize!

I need to donate stuff I don’t wear anymore and stop buying any more crap!

Yup. That’s my goal of April!

I need to wash all my winter gear and pack it nicely in a nice big box. (Which I might have to *ahem* purchase.

Ever so once in a while, I feel like I have so much material goods. I would much rather do more stuff, help more people, learn more things than accumulate accumulate accumulate!

For today, I’m going to acquire knowledge! Tata!