A recent spate of events reminded me of how sometimes, I become my very own worse critic.
I treat people with respect, patience and kindness but sometimes I forget that it is equally, if not more important to treat myself with patience and kindness.
So today, I will dust off the wounds and accept that it is okay to fail from time to time.
The more important lesson is, how can I learn from this mistake and be a better Charlene tomorrow.
On a side note, the hubby is making huge inroads in his (new) business. I put new in parentheses because I’m not sure if 1.5 years is still classified as new. Intelligence, persistence, diligence and courage are some of the values that he has exemplified over the last 2 years and I couldn’t be more proud of him! I seldom use the word deserved, because I find it somewhat entitled but I’m going to make the exception and say that he deserves all the success he’s going to get from this business, because of the crazy ass amount of work that he has put into it!
My smart little puppy! *pats pats*
My little nephew has a similar trait to me, he loves organizing and its something that you can see early in his life. For example, he would put all his Mr Men books according to color in his box and he would keep his match box cars in a designated plastic box which I specifically gave him together with the cars.
So last night my sister related this story to me. When she came home, my sister’s helper told Isaiah, look at all those books on the ground. Are you Mr Messy? Isaiah IMMEDIATELY stood up clear up his mess. (Which is a miracle, because which 2 year old eagerly picks up after himself?) He left one on the floor and when my sister saw it, out of jest, told him “You’re Mr Messy!”. Isaiah then proceeded to burst out in distressed tears and was visibly very upset!
My sister was shocked that his reaction was so extreme and hugged and kissed him to calm him down. She told him he was Mr Neat (haha!) and he calmed down after a while.
Later on that night, my sister had a talk with him and asked him why he was so upset, he told my sister, “Don’t say Isaiah is messy, say the floor is messy.”
WOAHHHHH!!!! Did that really come out from a 28 month old kid? He’s not even 2 and a half.
Its very interesting because in educational theories class, we are taught that one should not assign the child the negative trait but differentiate between the negative action and the child’s personality. It is just mind-blowing that a child, that young can tell you. HEY DONT SAY I”M MESSY, SAY THAT THE FLOOR IS MESSY.
Adorable little munchkin. Parenting is not easy, every child is different and this little boy is clearly very intuitive and sensitive to emotions. When you tell him you’re sad, he immediately comes to hug and kiss you and that trait was shown very early on in his life.
I miss that little bulb!
It has been 626 days since I moved to NYC.
But tonight I finally felt like saw a breakthrough in my “PROJECT CHARBOT CONQUERS AMERICA“!!!
I remember when I first got to NYC and hung out with Kris’s friends/work buddies. I did not freaking understanding their humor, colloquialism and general references to the ‘American’ way. I give some credit to the field that my husband is in, people in tech have a different way of expressing themselves. No really, hang around some (cool) geeks one day and you will notice the difference.
Today I sat down for a 4.5 hour dinner/drinks shenanigan and I totally UNDERSTOOD EVERYTHING THAT WAS SAID. I laughed a lot and was able to poke fun at people. (right back-atcha!)
I came home and realized I didn’t have to ask Kristopher, what did ‘xxx’ mean when he said ‘yyy’. Statistically speaking, it was with similar variables of his ex-colleagues, therefore I feel like the analysis of my learning of “Americanisms’ has vastly improved. I probably learnt most of it prior to today’s 626 mark, but today was a proven ‘test’. After all, you must start an experiment with similar variables!
And you know what?
It feels ABSOLUTELY GREAT!!!
Makes the OCD in me extremely pleased because I like to to be in control and know (almost) everything and anything. True I might not know a lot of things in the grand scheme of things, but mastering something new always feels AWESOME!
PS: Spring, if you do read this. I would like you to know that Matt said this at least 3 times over dinner: (and I quote), “My wife is BEAUTIFUL”.
I’ve recently taken a keener interest in practicing my Mandarin. I think verbally wise, I am pretty alright; however, my reading and writing skills have taken such a dip that I barely can recognize the 10,000/50000 Chinese characters in the Chinese script. Hence I have decided to join a Chinese group to practice my Mandarin and attempt to read and write occasionally. Wish me luck.
Useful websites for me to relearn Chinese
I find learning extremely fun. Right now I am still involved in my Grammar course from the New School because my lecturer has kindly offered to give us extra classes even though the Spring semester has long gone.
I need to start reading up on statistics for the behavioral sciences, which scares me a little because I hate stats and have always found a away to escape them. But, I think its about time to meet the challenge head on. Honestly, what better way than to take a graduate course on stats!! :/