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Project Grateful 365: Grateful for being a housewife

Day 107: Grateful for being a housewife

When I first got this role and introduced myself as one, you could practically see the thought bubble of people going, ‘Oh, that’s all’, ‘Oh, she must be dumb then’, ‘Oh, what a useless waste of life’, ‘Oh, she must be one of those who marry rich men.’

Right now, I just don’t give a s**t. People are entitled to think whatever they want, judge me however I want. But hey, sticks and stones can break my bones, but words (and maybe thought bubbles) can never harm me. Unless I let them.

 I wondered, if it was more me than them at first tho. I personally didn’t want to assume that role, I had lots of resistance and deep anger towards the VISA process for subjected me to “FORCED HOUSEWIFE SHIP’. HAHA

But you know what? NOW I’m JUST LOVING it.

(Hear Hear Kris Beevers!)

There is great joy in having a nice warm loving and CLEAN house.

I like giving Kris and myself a welcoming home to return too, when he has had a tiring day and relaxing in our own space.

He comes back whiny and tired and there’s always someone willing to listen to him (nag sometimes, but mostly listen) and prepare a hot and yummy meal.

I’m refreshed and rejuvenated at the end of the day, and so can be a cheery (MOST days) person for him to return home too. As opposed to having two stressed out and tired people having take out together. So I say we both have it good. 🙂

At the corner of my room, lies a cute lil boi and a cute lil doggie! (Digital photo frame, super cute)

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Project Grateful 365: Grateful for Cereal Prawns

Day 99

12th Feb 2013

I LOVE PRAWNS

I love love prawns. So when I went to whole foods yesterday, was very happy to see prawns on sale. Bought a bunch and VIOLAAAAAAA, here’s my delicious breakfast

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I know its not an American ‘breakfast food’ but hey its healthy to eat

1)Extravagantly like a King for breakfast

2) Like a normal human being for lunch

3) A pauper for dinner

My brother in law Martinus will be very shocked by this because usually in Singapore, I don’t eat breakfast and it makes him uncomfortable because he thinks its not healthy! So here you go Nusie-Man!

Project Grateful 365 (Day 94): Grateful for a beautiful Sunrise + Moonlit Sky

 

 

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Jan 7th, 2013

This was what greeted me at 5am this morning. Yes I am still jet lagged, but its quite alright because I don’t have a fixed schedule for anything. Being a housewife rocks. 🙂

I’m back to my old routine of cooking and cleaning and *sniffles* being alone. 🙁

I must remember its always hard in the first 2 weeks, whenever I go to Singapore or NYC for 3 months at a time. Its like you get into this routine and suddenly its gone. I’m a stickler for routines. Like a baby, babies love routine. Did you know that?

Although, I’ve stop whining and decided to just GET on with life, and basically SUCK it up!

I have thus :

1) unpacked my luggage

2) rearranged decorations in the house – Chinese-fy it more

3) cleaned the house

4) Made 2 trips to stock up the kitcken

5) Blogged 2 epic enteries

( http://charbotandwanderlust.com/2013/02/05/project-grateful-365-happy-6-months-little-one-grateful-for-the-obvious/ ) and ( http://charbotandwanderlust.com/2013/02/05/project-grateful-365-grateful-for-emirates-a380-business-class/ )

6) Gone for a meetup group which involves Mediative Yoga. I loved it, I mean I feel the stretch and ache this morning, but it was the kind that involved u stretching your muscles and not over straining, so I’m a happy camper!

7) Signed up for this 30 day trial member ship for New York Sports Club. They have many outlets around NYC, but I wanted to try the indoor heated pool lessons (Aqua Aerobics and Heated Pool Therapy) ** I’m going to try exercise every single day, even short walks of 30mins are better than nothing on lazy days**

8) Signed up for a single clay painting class.

9) Signed up for a single class about Body Langage Detection

10) Booked 2 tickets to ‘Luck of the Irish’, a play about racism and social issues

11) Made 2 dinner dates with friends and ‘play date’ with Charlie Bear, (My lil neighbour who’s so so cute, takes after his pretty mom!)

12) Made dinner reservations for Restaurant week (Capital Grille) with my MSH (Macro Sweet Heart)

13) Signed up for Mardi Gras party (But mostly probably might not go, because Kris said, and I quote, ‘You’re going to Mardi Gras without me???? Its an excuse where girls get beads for flashing their boobs!!!!’.)

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I’m sure its not that kind of party!

I’m not the partying sort, but I wanted to check out the nice swanky place with a cool rooftop bar. Well, we will see.

***Do take note that this is the same fiancee who thinks that Halloween in the city is for girls to dress slutty. (oh please forgive my lil country pumpkin :PPPP )

14. Finished 1 finance course, in coursera. I need to be more disciplined about it!

Anyways, so there is goes, my schedule for the next 1.5 weeks or so. After I finished typing this entry, the sun is almost out!

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Ahhhhh. 🙂

Have a wonderful day my dear friends and readers!

Project Grateful 365

Monday Jan 4th

Grateful that I reached NYC safely with Kris!

I have a weird compulsion of the need to IMMEDIATELY UNPACK and put away everything nicely. Hence after more than 24 hours on air, I decided that I really needed to spent 3.5 hours packing. before I could take a nap.

So pack away I did. I even started out with my mission to cutify/decorate/increase my chinese presence in this house. Funny how ‘ang moh’ things used to appeal to me more, but not that I’m in ‘Ang Moh territory. I decided that meh, I needed things cute (very very Asian thing I realised) and also a need to affilate myself to my Asian cultural roots. (Haha, I’m kidding la!)

Anyways here are some pictorial evidence!

Beary cute rug!

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Lovely teapot/kettle! (Already used it to make some warm tea, its -4 deg now or rather known as 25 deg F here! Some day imperial system, you and I will be best friends)

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2013 according to the lunar calendar is year of the Cutie Snakes! My sis is a snake, and apparently snakes eat pigs. No wonder she always lords after me! Haha

In front of the cats are my 2 Japanese cats from Tokyo that I acquired in 2012. Mad love that country. I believe they signify knowledge/career? and abundant prosperity? I just liked the colour. HAHA

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Chinese fortune cats, Kris loves this for some reason

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Our Bangkok loot, Thailand is our favourite SEAsian country outside of Singapore. So we thought we’ll bring a little of it back home from our trip in Jan 2013!

Cartoon elephants VS Relaxed smoking a pipe and fishing elephant

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Chinese symbol for blessing for our wedding!

Also 2 polaroids from Kris’s surprise that I planned on the plane. Best fiancee/wife ever! Self declared but Kris agrees. (He has no choice now! :P)

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My mini collection of fluffy-ies and token hello kitty items!

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Replica of an old Thailand map (formerly known as Siam), do you know that Thailand is the only country in SEA that wasn’t colonised? Way to go!

Kris likes maps and I love old maps, so we married the concept.

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So there you have it, 3.5 hours of packing later I decided to also re-decorate our apartment.

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Project Grateful 365: Day 52

Grateful for 2012

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I am grateful for a list of things:

1) I was an Aunty for the first time. A PANK! Professional Auntie No Kids, you’ll get it if you read the Straits Times. 🙂 I spent 3 months with my precious micro sweetheart and enjoyed every single minute of being with him. He’s all cute and cuddly, with his wide eyed innocence, awfully adorable deadpan and ‘blur’ looking expressions. I love him so very much!

2) I moved to another country for the first time. The only other time I lived overseas for an extended period of time was in 2005 where I moved to Vancouver for a student exchange program, such good memories 🙂

3) I quit my first ever permanent job. Bittersweet I would say. I learnt a lot but was glad to leave and enjoy life for a while as a housewife/nanny/tai-tai!

4) I finally sorted and deleted photos my mountainous pile of photos. I went from 25,000  to 15,000.  I had procrastinated for a loooooong time. The photos dated from 2005 to 2012. I feel very accomplished. Now, it took 7 years to delete unwanted photos, so it might take 14 years for me to label each and every one of them. I still can’t decide if I want to put that in my 2013 to do list.

5) I jolted myself out of my own independent comfort zone and decided to build my life with Kristopher. We moved in together and basically were married in all senses of the word as we waited for the US government to process the VISA papers so we can finally sign those papers in New York! (Fingers crossed, it will probably be in Feb 2013!!!!!!) It has been a long time coming, but we’re at the tail end of the first part and I’m positive that things will run smoothly from then on!

On the 23rd of Jan 2013, I will have completed the interview. Chances are high I will pass that because there is ABSOLUTELY no rational reason they would deny the VISA, given the overwhelming evidence we have of our loving relationship with one another. (I knew there were benefits to dating someone who records EVERYTHING in his life, yes EVERYTHING! Every single cent he spends and every thing he eats every single day is RECORDED!!!!)

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Anyways, so here we are: once I get the approval after I pass the K1 visa interview (somewhere) around Late Jan 2013 or Early Feb 2013, I can fly to the US (With the K1 visa), get married in city hall and with the marriage certificate, start applying for the I-485 (Adjustment of Status to get a Green Card), I-765 (Employment Pass), and I-130 (Petition for Alien Relative (As his wife) to remain in the US. I will get my conditional green card (it lasts 2 years) somewhere in October 2013. It will have taken us 17 months to get a green card that lasts 24 months.

I know it all sounds very unromantic and all, getting paper work and marching to city hall. Thankfully I’m not one of those girls who are caught up over what they call the ‘dream wedding’. To me the marriage is more important than the wedding. Honestly I’m unwilling to share that moment with another 100-500 people because to me, the marriage is about just the both of us. I much prefer events with close family and friends because these people mean the most to me.

That being said, I’m confident that getting married legally will still be an important milestone in our relationship: to pledge our eternal love for one another and to set it in stone with a legal binding document. 😛

We did a cosy informal wedding/farewell party back in Singapore for my side of the family and I guess we’re going to do another cosy party for Kris’s relatives sometime in 2013/2014. (Who knows what other delays the Visa is going to bring really.) Food and alcohol are always good ways to bring people together. I think both of us dislike being the center of attention at parties, so we’re trying to make it as casual as possible. We want it to be a time for close family and friends to come, stuff their faces, and have fun. Then again, Kris’s parents have no demands on us to do anything, so we might just have a 4 person thing at city hall, just us both and his parents. We’ll see I guess!

6) I made a few friends both in the US and Singapore. Making friends is hard for me, I have plenty of acquaintances but very few people I consider friends. Facebook is not an indicator of friendship! 😛 I’m actually hard to really know, behind my ‘deceptive’ bubbly persona. I have a strong guttural instinct when it comes to people and usually within the first 30 seconds, I know if that person is one that I would want to hang out with a second time. I’m fiercely loyal to the current friends/family I have and would always rather hang out with them or alone. I find it tiring to make new friends, especially people I need to socialise with but don’t really want too. So I’m rather happy to meet some people these year that I feel I can hang out with for many years to come!

All in all, it has been a good year for me lots of changes, lots of adjustments out of my comfort zone but it has taught me many little lessons. People say that the first year of marriage (or living with) your partner is the most difficult, I am proud to announce that I loved every bit of it! I look forward to building the rest of my new life with Kristopher!

I feel very blessed with everything that has happened this year and I look forward greatly to what 2013 has in store for me/us 😀

My wish for 2013 is for more peace/less violence, more financial equality and more smiles/joy/happiness around the globe!

#PeaceOUT

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Project Grateful 365: Day 38

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Today I am grateful for yummy Asian snacks!

(clockwise from top: Honey Baby biscuits, Shrimp crackers and pea crackers)

Hong Kong Supermarket
157 Hester St
(between Elizabeth St & Bowery)
New York, NY 10013

Its funny how being in a different country makes you crave the familiar. When I was in Singapore, I used to like USA imported junk food like Ben and Jerry’s, Doritos and Lays.

But now that I’m here, suddenly I want a taste of home. I put out a little in my little Japanese porcelain bowl that I got from Daiso and for that brief respite, I feel like I’m transported back to a familiar and comforting place.

Very silly I know, but whatever works I guess.