It’s been a while since I could open my windows and take in the cool breeze from the Hudson River. This summer in New York City has been so oppressive, and I’m just so thankful for the nice cool breeze today. Its around 24c now, which in american terms is around 75f. There is something so immeasurably simple, yet gratifying about the cool weather.
I woke up at 7am this morning and finished doing laundry, cleaned the house, made traditional Chinese ginseng chicken soup (for my salaryman), made healthy smoothie shakes for the both of us and its not even 11am. YAY! I love feeling like I have accomplished a lot before 12. Oh the possibilities for the rest of the day!
(Ginseng chicken soup + my organized pantry and ‘heart shaped mittens’ from a dear friend)
(This morning’s window situation)
So here I am, with my Singapore mug filled with aromatic coffee and a magazine, taking in the sunshine, glorious cool weather, with a heart filled with gratitude for my life. Its the little things, its always the little things.
It has been a lovely visit back home for the last couple of days. I have spent quality time with family, friends and basked in the oppressive heat with fortitude; or as Kris says it – “like a trooper.” Singapore is for the most part, what I remembered it to be: awesome local food, (even) crazier crowds, columns and columns of skyscrapers and high-rise buildings. The familiarity of Singlish, the endless stream of conversations that flow as if I never left, and the recollection of shared memories of the yesteryears.
I feel very blessed to be pampered head to toe by my family and friends alike. From taking leave from work to spend time with me, to accommodating my food requests, treating me to meals, giving me a ride home, to making time for me and being genuinely happy to share a meal/conversation/cuppa coffee with me!
I cannot express how happy that makes me feel.
So excuse me while I take a hiatus from this space and enjoy some good old lovin’.
As with any married couple, Kris and I have disagreements. It ranges from minor squabbles to full blown “I’m going to box your ears right now” disagreements. Marriage is no piece of cake, the coming together of two (sometimes) completely different and ‘oh-so-stubborn’ individuals is challenging at best. BUT!!! There are days when you cozy into each others arms after a long day, receive kisses on your forehead after a bad day and bask in the quiet comfort of knowing that is always someone to go home to. There are days where joy is doubled and sorrow is halved.
Today I was feeling particularly irritable (and I must admit for no good reason), possibly due to the 4 massive load of laundry I had left sitting in the baskets. I blame summer for the compelling need to change clothes every couple of hours! Coupled with our my new exercise regime, I seem to be doing laundry ALL THE TIME! The sweetie pie hubby, knew that I was feeling grumpy, (quite obvious given the grey clouds storming above my head), decided to come with me to the laundry room to help me load the clothes before proceeding to work.
It might be a tiny gesture of love to most, but it reminded me again of why I married this lovely man! He’s not good with grand gestures, but in his quiet demeanor he notices little things similar to the above, doesn’t judge me, never ever tells me, “OH STOP WHINNING”, but instead goes out of his way to love me, showers me with unconditional hugs and mostly loves me exactly the way I need to be loved.
I’m sure many of you are familiar with the 5 languages of love by Gary Chapman.
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
I’m high on words of affirmation, so today I’m grateful that Kris tells me everyday that he loves me. Most days he also tells me how grateful he is: that I’m staying home, taking care of the house, cooking meals and doing whatever I do so (mostly fun things really, hee) that he can focus solely on work. I’m very lucky that he’s always very appreciative and doesn’t take me for granted. I think its very important in any relationship to affirm one another and not just assume that that person knows you’re grateful. I mean everybody likes to be praised and told thank you for their efforts! So remember to affirm your family members today!
Although one must note that, when a yummy breakfast of his choosing has been cooked there is a heightened excitement in his, ‘OH WOW, I LOVE MY WIFE, THAT LOOKS SO YUMMY.’
(FYI, looks so yummy refers to pancakes/omelettes, not the wife :P)
So last night, over Mexican food, Kris and myself wrote our vows together. (Actually we modified the traditional ones) It is very simple and meaningful but most importantly we drafted it without much difference in opinions. YAY US!
We practiced our kiss this morning and NOW!!!!!!!!! We’re all ready to get married tomorrow!
THE KISS (heh!) is going to be something chaste and simple, but sweet and adorable, like US!
Kris’s parents (well soon to be MINE too!) are coming this evening and 4 of us are going to troop to city hall tomorrow to get legally married!
A little bummed that my own folks can’t attend, but such is the reality of a international marriage/visa restrictions. However, I did have a traditional chinese tea ceremony and little party for them, so that’s the best I can do really. Hopefully my best is enough for them! 🙂