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Been meaning to do a resolution list of all sorts but I haven’t gotten the inspiration for it. Briefly thought about a laundry list of the things to be grateful for in 2013 but haven’t gotten around to that either.

Today marks the 1st day of the Lunar Calendar and it heralds the beginning of the Lunar New Year.

I have one goal in this Horsey Year.

I need room for more Love. More Self love, more love for my wonderful husband, my families, friends and people around me.

I want to work on ‘Self Love’, because the happier and more content I am with myself and my life, the more ‘Love’ I can give to those around me.

So this year, I will be less hard on myself, take more time to enjoy everything I’m blessed with and not feel guilty for the lack of conformity to societal’s standards. I will be lazy some days and it will be okay. I will drive myself up the wall somedays and it will be okay. I will dream up dreams and they will crash and burn, but it will be okay.

It will be okay because everything I want and have is in my heart, mind and soul. I just need to reach in (sometimes with a little more effort than the other times) and grab it!

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So here’s wishing everyone I love: ‘MORE love: romantic blissful love, deliriously happy induced love and just plain good old happy love!’

恭禧發財, 马年大吉, 心想事成

 

Project Grateful: Grateful as IS (Day 195)

A lot of people, at any given time, are always wondering ‘Could I be doing more, Should I be doing more?’

Questions like:

1) I’m not satisfied with my career, I need a better paying job.

2) My BA is not enough I need a MA

3) My MA is not good enough I need a PHD

4) My career is not going as well as I think it should be, I need a  promotion.

5) I’m not satisfied being a housewife/tai-tai, I need something more…..

 I sometimes feel that humans in general are never satisfied.

That in itself is not really a bad thing, because sometimes ‘wanting to upgrade’ oneself helps you maximize your potential to be the best that we can be.

But the downside of the above mentality is that;  we become so conditioned to always wanting more and more, that it becomes part of our psyche. Wanting more, becomes always a habit, like a way of life.

The evolution of modern society, which constantly seeks greater levels of productivity and  efficiency, pushes humans to always want more and more and more and more and more and moreeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

But the bigger question lies therein, when do we stop wanting more?

There is no end really.

While I think its very important to always challenge yourself to be the best that you can be;  it is also equally important to take a step back and enjoy your successes, enjoy the HERE and NOW and learn to also celebrate your life as is.

So today I’m just going to be grateful for my life as it is. I’m grateful for the place that I am in, the wonderful husband that I have, the new friends I’ve made in NYC, my new extended American family, my family in Singapore and my old friends in Singapore. I’m grateful for a roof over my head and never having to worry about my next meal.

Gratitude, just plain old simple gratitude is perhaps the fundamental cure to all problems and the root of all happiness!

So remember to express gratitude today!

The grass is always more turquoise over at the other bank.

When I first got here, I was home alone a lot and didn’t have much friends so I looked forward to Kris coming home every night for dinner. I would make us a nice dinner, have everything at the correct temperature and just be waiting for that door knob to turn.

Now he’s working at home and when I come back from an excursion with my friends. He’s always around! So today after a nice long 2 hour walk with some pals along the Hudson, I arrived home to an empty house! I was so delighted! I pottered around made some lunch and saw down by the window writing this blog entry.

Sometimes just sometimes, its nice to be alone for a while. (Don’t worry Kris, when u’re home I’ll still give you a nice big hug and kiss!)

On the bright side, at least I’m cognizant that I ALWAYS want what’s on the other side, because I can now remember to appreciate what I have at the current moment!!

Right here and now, I must remember to enjoy the time alone! Clicking and clacking on this beautiful keyboard of mine! drinking from my nice fat glass cup! and chowing down on my day old salad and pepperoni pie!

Ahhhh the joys of being home alone!

This will be Day 191’s PROJECT GRATEFUL ENTRY! – Enjoying time at home alone!

Project Grateful 365 (Day 178) Walking tours!

June 10th, 2013

On weekends that we’re not doing a road trip, not gawking at protests or not travelling somewhere or eating at some yummy establishments. The husband and I will choose a random area to go on a ‘walking tour!’

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(Fuel before our 8.36mile walk!)

 

Along with my cooking and cleaning duties, I’m also the chief fun officer. I plan recreational activities and things to do during weekends and weeknights. So today  I randomly planned a walk around the residential neighborhood of Astoria. The prices in Manhattan and Brooklyn are rising so quickly that many people find themselves moving towards Astoria for cheaper rents. There are mostly low rise buildings and residential homes, and some nice restaurants littered along broadway and 30th ave. Either than a good, long healthy walk there was nothing really at Astoria so we’ll probably not go back ever.

We walked quite a bit before taking the train back to Union Square and witnessed chants of ‘Hey Hey Ho Ho, Erdogan has gotta go!’ I sometimes wonder tho, beyond just an ability to voice your opinions how will protests like this, affect anything that is going on in Turkey? Nonetheless, a voice in better than no voice.

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We wanted to go buy some fresh produce at the green market but unfortunately they were closing up before we had a chance. They are usually also pretty expensive I think, Wholefood prices. (Speaking of whole foods, I bought a peach for 1.80usd the other day #whysoexpensive????)

There was also a street market near University place but those ‘Pasar Malams’ usually just sell overpriced food and I don’t think they are all that fantastic. I’ve been to quite a few now and haven’t found myself being vowed by anything. They always smell fantabulous tho!

 

From Union Square we walked home, not before stopping for dinner and some scented candles. For some reason yankee candles are 12.99 per bottle now, why are they so expensive????? Bed Bath and Beyond is even worse, 20 bucks for a bottle of candle. You gotta be kidding me! Which is sad because I really love their Mahogany Teak! I’ll buy them when they are on sale 2 bottles for 22.50 before tax, which is still pretty expensive if you think about it. Non brand name candles can sometimes go for 4bucks on sale, so there’s your comparison!

The husband was craving Indian so we had Indian for dinner! Malai Marke at the east village. Very yums, 4.5 stars outta 5!

IMG_4368Lamb curry, Vegetable Curry, Naan and some complimentary papadum! Artery clogging but oh so good! 

 

Project Grateful 167: A lesson in looking at a glass half full

Today I conquered 2 parks! Central Park and Battery Park!

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My YUMMY SUSHI LUNCH!

I went to Central Park post lunch for a walk with a friend, Starbucks in hand like a true New Yorker!

There were plenty of people in the park for some reason, its as if nobody had to work! It was sweltering tho, humid and hot! Reminded me of Singapore!

Since I had to rush out of the house in the afternoon, I left the laundry half unfolded on the bed and zoom-ed out. I meant to do it before Kris got home but got distracted by making a picnic dinner. Kris came back saw the pile of clothes and said, ‘Don’t worry I’ll fold it later. ‘While enjoying our romantic picnic at the park, he mentioned a list of things he was happy about today and one of them was, ‘I’m grateful that someone does my laundry for me.’

I think Kris is really one of those very optimistic people, because he comes home from a long day at work and instead of saying, “Aiya! Clothes all messy on the bed! He thinks, Oh so nice someone did my laundry for me!’ Its a small issue really but it shows how important it is to always look at the glass half full! Many people forget that!

I’m very grateful to be reminded of that today. You can look at your own life and find a million faults! Or you can look at your life thru happy glasses and always find something to be thankful about.

I’m very lucky to be married to a truly optimistic person! Always happy and positive! He’s a joy to be around!

So I must remember, instead of thinking, ‘OH CRAP ROOT CANAL! I must think! Oh luckily there is the invention of anesthetic!

HUP HUP! HAPPY TUESDAY EVERYBODY!

 

 

 

Project Grateful 365: Day 151, 152, 153

 

April 22 (Day 152)

We’re married for 2 whole months, surely something to be grateful about really! 😛 We also did a trip up north and here are some  beautiful country side views!

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April 23 (Day 153)

Today I’m very glad for the 4 day 3 night ‘staycation’ at my mother in law’s. She’s a great pamperer and so whenever we visit we get fussed and pampered. Coupled with the relaxing surroundings, it was quite a vacation. She’s also quite healthy conscious so we get healthy food! However, she also gets chocolate and potato chips and bagels cause she knows we like it! We also had apple sauce cake from scratch, pizzas and baked fish with gourmet fingerling potatoes. YUM YUM YUM!

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My fish, beans and gourmet fingerling potatoes!

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Home made pizza

 

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Just to be clear. This is NOT my mother in law’s birthday cake.  (Inside joke)

April 24 (Day 154)

When Kris walked out of the door today, he said, ‘Goodbye, I’m going to enslave myself to corporate America.’ From time to time, he says funny things like this and makes me laugh. He’s actually quite funny in his own silly way. When he left he also said, have a nice relaxing day! What a sweet hubby! 🙂

On a side note, it has been 80 days since I’ve officially migrated here. Time flies! From time to time my heart aches a little from missing my super adorable nephew, family and friends but most of the time, I’m happy and content. 80 days seems so short and yet so long.

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The other day I caught myself referring to New York as home, I guess that means I have settled in pretty well.