Category Archives: Getting married in NYC

The immigrant housewife speaks

When people back home call me a tai-tai, I always scoff and say I’m a pseudo tai-tai or a glorified housewife more than anything. After all when you have half your face buried while scrubbing the toilet bowl, furiously rubbing soap scum of the bathroom tiles or mopping and sweeping my life away, thats hardly the life of a tai-tai. But then after a while, I take a stab back and realize that its just my negative thoughts speaking.

I do live in one of the most eclectic places in the world and I got a pretty shiny apartment. My apartment has a glorious view of the Hudson river and I get to stay at home while the rest of the world slaves away and I get to have ‘tai-tai’ lunches with my fellow housewives and I get to buy whatever I need without worrying about the cost too much. I guess what I’m trying to say is, I need to look and focus more on the positive aspects of my life. I may not have everything perfect all the time but I have everything (and a lot of extras) that I need to make me happy right here and now. And its the here and now that matters.

Sometimes I get a little down because I focus on my supposed career regression, my seemingly blind quest towards finding my purpose in life, difficulty of adjusting to American culture and coping with being so far away from my family and friends. All these negative emotions make me lose sight of why I’m here in the first place.

I’m here because I met a man that I’m willing to trade all the things I have in Singapore for. He treats me very well and I know that he’ll love me for all of our collective lives together but more importantly, I left Singapore with the thirst of wanting to find out whats out there and to fulfill my dream of wanting to live overseas. Except that I’ve always thought that I was going to live overseas for a few years and not leave indefinitely. But who knows what’s going to happen in future, maybe we’ll have enough to straddle two homes in opposite ends of the globe!

I left Singapore wanting to explore the rest of the world, to venture out of my comfort zone, to acquire new adventures! but yet sometimes I let homesickness and fear of change eat into my soul. But you know what, I’m not going to beat myself over that. Its normal for people to fear change and its normal for people to resist change. Instead of worrying about my imperfections of adjusting, I’m going to applaud myself for taking a bold step towards building a better life for the both of us. Its normal to feel homesick and its normal to fear change. I must remember that different is not always bad, different lends an opportunity for one to contemplate about what was and why the present is such.

Moving on….

After a few months of marriage, the exhilaration of new love and the palpitation and excitement of the nuptials has worn away. Instead it’s being eroded with the quiet comfort of knowing there’s someone at home waiting for you; the definitive comfort of knowing that when you have a bad day there will always be someone at home waiting to give you a big bear hug; best of all you know that no matter what happens, no matter what silly arguments you might have had, you take comfort in the fact that he/she will always be walking beside you for the rest of eternity.

 

 

 

 

Project Grateful COMBO EDITION!!!!

24th-26th Feb 2013

111-113TH DAY

Feb 24th: Brooklyn Nets Vs Memphis Grizzles

So Kris’s parents (I now call them Maaaaa and Pop!) are in town chilling with us after the wedding so we took them sight seeing.

So today I’m grateful for going to yet another NBA game, I’m liking those professional basketball games I’m tellin’ ya!

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Hee Hee. Kris’s dad is a huge sports fan, so he was very happy. However, like Kris he’s very even keeled and you couldn’t see the enthusiasm, if you didn’t know him well. Very interesting to see how Kris is really very much like his father, but yet very similar to him Mom in other ways.  I would say that Kris is an even mix between the two.

We walked around Brooklyn/Williamsburg during the day and passed by Borough Hill where all the Hasidic Jews were celebrating Purim. It was very interesting to see such a different culture. I wasn’t so pleased when I saw a sign that said, ‘Women’s entrance’ on the backdoor and the Men’s on the Front Door. But every culture is different, who am I to judge?

I’m just glad I was born a woman in Singapore!

Feb 25th: Central Park/Ichiro Sushi/Salmon Fish Dinner

Today we relaxed a little, (Kris’s parents) They went to the Museum of Natural History in the morning  and then we had a nice walk to Central Park before going to Ichiro Sushi. I forced/coerced them into suggested Sushi because its my favourite foods. I’m happy that they liked it after all!

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Then we came home at night and I made them a nice dinner. My own mother would be pleased that I’m carrying out my daughter in law duties dutifully. She has been asking me if I do take care of my in laws when they are here. I guess in the Asian culture, it reflects badly on the parents if their daughter doesn’t serve their in laws. Haha. I’m so glad I got American parents! No expectations of servitude whatsoever!!!!! Then again, that’s a very antiquated way of thinking even in Singapore, most modern parents don’t expect that anymore. Or so I think!

Feb 26th: Laundry + Chillax day

 

I just got back from the train station after sending my new Maaa and Pop to Penn Station. It was wonderful having them over and I’m glad we got to spent lots of time wandering along the streets of New York together. Its a lovely city, I’m falling in love with this city a little more everyday!

I’m so grateful to have such a nice home in the city!!!! You know how you sometimes get to a place and after a while take it for granted? Well every so often you have guests that come here and be so amazed at the view and the city that I’m reminded of how lucky we are to get this opportunity to live here.

Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine that I’ll get to live in an apartment so high up, in downtown Manhattan, that I get a totally unobstructed view of the Statue of Liberty.

What can I say? My husband is very capable!!!!

Feels awesome saying that I have a husband! I have came up with several names!

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Hubs

Husband-let

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Shall end of the entry with our wedding cake pictures!

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Our very yummy Red Velvet Wedding Cake!

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Cake cutting ‘ceremony’

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Me ‘bullying’ my new husband!

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Project Grateful 365: Grateful for the first day as Mrs Beevers!

Day 110 : Feb 23th, 2013

How does being married feel? Well pretty much the same, except that now I can say I have a husband officially.

Next week we can get our papers filed and then we can get the GC moving, how’s that for  a healthy dose of romance? 😛

Anyways, feeling this and that is less important than the vows and commitment to one another to make the marriage work.

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(My in laws went with us too but they are too shy to be featured on my blog)

Project Grateful 365: Grateful for marrying the love of my life

 

22nd Feb, 2013

Grateful for marrying the love of my life

A long time coming, we have had to wait almost an entire year before we’re going to sign on this dotted line!

It’s going to be a solemn quiet affair, just us and his parents. No big poofy wedding dress, no huge banquet hall with 1000 guests nor huge extravagant ding-dongs. It’s going to be private, exhilarating and the happiest day of both of our lives.

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MY ODE to Kris

Kristopher Beevers is the love of my life

He’s kind, funny (to me only,HA!) , extremely intelligent and more importantly one of the most genuine persons; I’ve come to know in my life.

He’s my soul mate, my lover and best friend.

He makes me a better person, without being judgmental or overly harsh.

He makes decisions together with me, filled with patience, respect and fortitude. (sometimes he tries to be all control freak about it, but AHA! He has met his match, I’m equally control freaked!)

So therefore collectively as a couple we learnt tolerance, patience and graciousness. 🙂

He’s my partner in life, a person I trust with all my heart and love with all my soul.

I’ll carry your heart gently in my hands for the rest of our collective lives together, just as you would carry my heart (and sometimes my bag) for the rest of our lives!

Happy marriage to us MY LOVE! 

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Project Grateful 365: Grateful for not having to plan a complicated wedding!

Day 108

PLANNING A WEDDING!!!

 

So last night, over Mexican food, Kris and myself wrote our vows together. (Actually we modified the traditional ones) It is very simple and meaningful but most importantly we drafted it without much difference in opinions. YAY US! 

We practiced our kiss this morning and NOW!!!!!!!!! We’re all ready to get married tomorrow!

THE KISS (heh!) is going to be something chaste and simple, but sweet and adorable, like US! 

Kris’s parents (well soon to be MINE too!) are coming this evening and 4 of us are going to troop to city hall tomorrow to get legally married!

A little bummed that my own folks can’t attend, but such is the reality of a international marriage/visa restrictions. However, I did have a traditional chinese tea ceremony and little party for them, so that’s the best I can do really. Hopefully my best is enough for them! 🙂

I’m sure it is! :)))))