Extracted from Shakespeare’s Hamlet (Where Polonius gives this piece of advice to his son)
“This Above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst then be false to any man”
I don’t know about you but I sometimes am caught up in this thought bubble where instead of asking myself what I want to do, I think about what the people around me expects me to do. I sometimes feel I must go and work but at the same time I ask myself, ‘Do I really want to work’ or ‘Do I feel like I have to work because society expect me to?’
My greatest challenge is to find a way to harmonise or reconcile what I want (what truly makes me happy) and what the world expects me to behave/adhere too.
I want to do things because I am happy doing those things, not because of expectations laid upon me. Strangely enough, if you think about it, they are sometimes hard to differentiate.
Simple things like going to the gym. Are you going because:
1) You want to be fit and look nice for yourself
2) You want to look slim because all your friends are skinner/prettier than you or because you want your husband/wife to notice you again.
Ideally it should always be 1) but invariably extrinsic factors do motivate or perhaps coerce us to do things in life.
So think about it, are you living your life based on what you want, what makes you truly happy? Or are you living your life, based on what you perceive others want you to be?
Life is short, make the most out of it!