Monthly Archives: April 2012

Please stop whinning!

 

 

 

Be the change you want to see in the world, if you can’t be the change of the world than at least be the change you want to see in yourself – charbot¬†

 

(This post might potentially annoy you, if you cannot be open minded about deviating points of view, it’s time to switch windows!)

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Last chance! Okay here goes my rant!

 

 

Ever since I quit my job. I have been happily travelling, to new York, Thailand and I have booked tickets for Japan next week and New York again the week after. ūüôā

 

 

Many people for good intentions (mostly) have been saying, ‘oh you’re so lucky. Can travel as and when you want, coz Kris can support you, blah blah…..’

 

 

Well wrong on both counts. Kris has indeed offered to finance some of my travels, but it was declined because I work and I save and it’s time to reward myself. I am not lucky cause it’s suddenly raining money. I’m lucky because I save hard and I’m lucky because I value happiness over being tied to a job which I felt didnt make me realise my maximum potential. I am lucky because I Know that money/stability is not always the key to happiness. I am lucky because I know that my career is only one part of my life. I mean I am happy for a lot of other things… I digress, my¬†point is, You! Yes YOU have the power of making yourself happy/lucky/fortunate.¬†

 


 

Blessed are those who see that: ¬†the fruits of their own labour are the most precious. Being lucky does not mean that someone hands you/showers you with stuff you need not work for. It simply means that you’re a fortunate parasite.¬†

 

 

I know the analogy is a tad harsh, but it puts my point across. I think it’s very important for people to work hard to achieve the things they want in life. For me it’s travelling and I deserve every ounce of this ‘luck’ because I have worked really hard and compromised a lot of things in my life for this simple pleasure of exploring the world.

 

 

So please for goodness sake, do not say I’m lucky and especially do not be jealous of me. You can be ‘lucky’ like me too! Just bite the bullet and make a choice!

 

 

Give up your HDB, condo, car, ridiculously expensive designer bags, shoes etc etc. Don’t eat at restaurants and viola, you’ll have lots of spare cash.

 

 

Envy is a wasted emotion. If you want something, plan for it, budget for it.

 

 

Work to live and not live to work! It’s that simple.

 

 

I do acknowledge however, that it’s not an easy decision. Attachment to a stable income, a house that’s fully paid for, a mortgage, a car etc etc does some what tie you down. But hey! that is what I gave up in order to enjoy my life for a while. I do eventually plan to go back to work and/or finish graduate school. When I run out of planned savings! ūüôā

 

 

But for now, I’m going to sit back, enjoy my life, enjoy my hard-earned money and have as many ¬†massages as I want in Bangkok, because I have only one life and I fully intend to make it count!
Ps kris: *Bangkok is awesome, the company, food, massages! Oh massages!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I bought a nice massage oil and hopefully I can stop falling asleep in massages so that I can bring Bangkok to you! If all else fails, I will YouTube it and help u do a Thai massage! I miss you and love you very much! Wish u were here with me!!!! Chu chu
Pps: I also did not spell check or check my language thoroughly because I rather be exploring and fully enjoying Bangkok! ¬†Linguistics nazi’s welcome to your version of hell! :p

Enroute to Bangkok, thoughts related to wanderlust

 

 

Entry written in plane ride to BangkoK*
As the plane took off, it dawned on me that I love travelling because to me, travelling gives  me the illusion of being free. Up at 20,000 ft I can admire  the the vast ocean and the natural landforms while being sandwiched between the clouds. It gives me a freeing feeling, as if I was tied to nothing but a spectator of the natural wonders of life. For some reason that is deeply comforting to me.

 

I dislike being tied down with expectations that society has on me. Being a daughter, sister, wife, friend, teacher etc etc while most of the time gives u the comfort of familiarity and a social support system, sometimes can be tiring. I’m largely an introvert, I like people but in moderate doses. There is nothing I value more in life than having time alone to reflect, ponder, read, write and enjoy time with myself.
As a teacher one  goes into a class and transforms herself into an actor, trying to bring students into the 1800s or whatever era of history i am teaching for the day; like a form of theatrics. I mean I loved being a teacher, parts of being a teacher was rewarding but having to assume the role of an adult, watching what you say and do at ALL TIMES  was challenging. My kiddos are young and impressionable take things far too literally and my brand of humour may not totally not sync well with my bosses/parents/colleagues if paraphrased then repeated.
I found that role of being lil miss perfect particularly difficult as a teacher. I tried very hard to stick to my principals and the essence of who I am but it wasn’t that easy. To stay out of trouble, or to avoid problems, I sometimes just adopted what was deemed acceptable to the organisation. Conformity in Singapore society was a big big thing; hence having desire to be different, made one stick out like a sore thumb.

 

I think the above was important in my choice of a life partner. (apart from the fact that kris is a wonderful wonderful man) I feel that being non Singaporean, he was a lot less judgemental. I’m not entirely sure if it’s a personality thing or a cultural thing that he had less demands on me as a gf/fianc√©e/wife. I guess it’s a bit of both. Being with him gives me a feeling of freedom, that I could always count on him for help and support even if he didn’t agree with what I wanted to do. He was always encouraging, supportive, protective but never intrusive. He offers suggestions/alternatives but I never feel pressured into adopting the same life choices as him. It’s a delicate art I feel, wanting the best for someone yet at the same time, resisting all urge to say, ‘No don’t do this’ and giving that person a chance to make his own mistakes. It’s something I struggle a lot with in relationships with those I hold closest to my heart. I’m getting better at it over time. (or so I hope)

 

 

Freedom is something so intangible yet something so fundamentally important to every human being,

Land of Smiles

Am off to Bangkok for a week with Shelvi.

Hello Shopping, Massages and Pad Thai!

Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Life is good.

 

On a side note, I have moved to Hougang into my sister’s house. Life is awesome there, I got a pink lil room and its warm and cosy! The company is great too! I shall blog more about moving from one place to another when I get back.

I have about 4 suitcases of stuff and then I’m done with moving my stuff from SIN to NYC.

All hail ‘The Queen of Moving halfway across the world COMPACTLY!’

 

Tata folks!